30 days of dating your husband

Dating your husbandAugust has come to an end quickly. On to pumpkin flavored EVERYTHING, layer clothes, colorful leaves, opened windows, nice breeze and beautiful colors. Can you tell that I LOVE FALL! I really love everything about it. Sadly we are not quite there, come on September 22nd! Until then I have a fantastic way to pass the time, Join me in spending all of September honoring our husbands.

As a mom to a young child I often find myself catering to her all the time. This often means that my husband gets the back burner. I love him dearly and appreciate him so much, I know he knows all of this, but it’s just nice to show it. In fact it’s not just nice it’s scriptural.

 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NIV)

So I want to make it a priority to serve him and honor him.

I have made a list of 30 things to do to “date” your husband, for the 30 days of September. Most of these are free or cheap and at home. Lets be honest, I have a small child, and while I would love to have a designated date night ever month, that’s not going to happen. So I need something to do after she goes to bed or even do as a family while still honoring him. You can download your own copy of this list. Below!

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Do it in what ever order you want, change some or make up your own. All I want is you to make your own memories and have fun while serving your husband, you BOTH deserve it!

I will try to remember to come back here often and update y’all on what is going on, but if not check out #30daysofdatingyourhusband on Instagram or Facebook 🙂

Thank you for stopping by, I would love to hear from you!

Love ya,


Decoding your man: God’s way.

Over a year ago a few ladies at my church started a bible study. This is nothing new, right, I mean I have been going to this church for over 25 years. I often joke that I was born in the pew I sit in. So when I was approached about going to this “wife” bible study, I agreed but to be honest I didn’t think I would gain much from this. At this point I had been married for a bout 5 1/2 years so I thought I had this whole “wife” thing down, and I raised in church so I knew how a wife was supposed to act.

We began this study called “Created to be his Help Meet”. With in the first chapter my toes had been crushed by how hard Debi Pearl had stepped on them. I have attended a few bible studies but I have never finished one. How awful is that? I know! There is absolutely no excuse for this other than I was failing as a christian. I was spiritually immature and I only wanted to hear the good things God could offer me. So when I “thought” I was rocking this whole marriage thing and then found out I was kind of sucking at it, I had to find out more. I knew going into this that I was only going to be married once and I could not mess it up. This study really showed me step by step how to change what I was messing up. I really recommend you looking into this book, either by yourself or even with a group of ladies! The also have a Husband’s study and a pre-marriage study.  I have not read either of these but I do love the wife study.


I do not get any kids of benefits from the link above nor do I have any association to the Pearls, I’m just sharing the love. Also I prefer the older copy to the new and revised 10 year addition. I just don’t agree with the 2 chapters that she added in.

Anyways back to decoding your man. In this book there is a very in-depth chapter on what your husbands need might be, and how you can help him as a Godly wife. I’m going to quickly talk about the 3 types of men and ways to serve them, that Debi goes over in her book! I would love for this to be a multiple part post, so I may look into more “serving your husband” posts. So y’all be on the look out.

Decoding your man what does this mean? To me this is just realizing that not all men are created equal. Every man has different needs and as their wives we are supposed to fulfill a lot of these needs. The problem with this, is men are notorious for not asking for help, so we are left trying to figure out what we think they need. This can be a problem because we add our own needs into the equation and then form so kind of false theory as to how we can help. So like I said there are 3 main types of personalities for men. Each man has his own make up of these. So while mine is like 80% one and like 20% of another, yours could be a completely different make up. Please keep this in mind as you read.

The Commander:

This man is dominant, a born leader. He is chosen by other men to be a leader. He will go above and beyond what is called of him. The commander wants his wife to serve him. He has to be leader and he needs his wife to follow. He will probably even correct you without even a second thought. You should count your blessings that you are married to a strong, bossy man. He knows what he wants in life and he does not stray from that. If you are married to the commander you have to earn your place in his hear. This means you will have to stand by him, be faithful, loyal and most of all, obedient. You should never shame him, nor belittle him, or ignore his accomplishments. He will probably not take out the trash or clean up the trash, if he is asked to do so he will command someone else to do it. You can ruin your marriage by failing to honor and obey your husband’s authority. You can heal your marriage by becoming his Queen, by honoring and obeying his every word (reasonable or not).

The Visionary:

This man is a dreamer. He will move and relocate without a second thought. He will often be an inventor. He will love confrontation. He will either be very wealthy or very poor. If he is not wealthy he will surly be rich in experience. The visionary will need a stable, but she should know how to be reckless to enjoy the ride. You will need to be flexible and loyal. Life will be and adventure. He will need your support to be freely given. He needs a wife that will not take offence easy. The Visionary is not made to be a comforter. You can ruin this marriage by failing to follow, believe or participate. You can heal your marriage by laying aside your own dreams and embrace your calling to be a help meet for your man.

The Steady:

This man is a rock. He does not make snap decisions. He will not spend his last dime on a new idea. He won’t tell other people what to do. Does not like controversy. He will be faithful till the end. This man is content with his wife for the rest of his life. He will not put undue pressure on his wife. He doesn’t expect you to he his servant. You rarely feel hurried, pushed, pressured or forced.  If you are married to the steady man and you are a hopeless romantic, you may not see what he is worth and this means that you are not serving him. He is not spontaneous. He will try to please you and he will become confused if you are unhappy and will try to serve you more. Count your blessings if you are married to this wonderful, kind, loving, serving man. Watch your attitude because if you are a tiny bit selfish you will look ungrateful compared to him. He will love you, adore you, protect you and serve you. As the steady man’s wife you should pray for wisdom for him and you should stop expecting him to preform for you. He will probably not pray with the family, or speak out in witnessing, nor will he be bold in church. Unless he is asked of course. As his wife you should learn to seek his advice and then give him time to answer. The steady man likes his wife to walk beside him. He needs a hard-working, resourceful woman with dignity and honor. She needs to be self-sufficient in all tasks of life. He will make wise well thought out decisions. He will be the man to take out trash and even clean up the mess. He is liked by everyone. He is always in demand, to fix a car, build a house, or even heal them of cancer. As his wife you may never have him to yourself. You can ruin this marriage by failing to appreciate, wait on, or be thankful for your husband’s qualities. You can heal your marriage by being joyful and realizing what kind of friend, lover and companion you have been given.


As you can guess I am defiantly married to “The Steady”! He does have qualities of “The Commander”  but he is majority steady. If you are worried about your husband leading you down the wrong path, just look back at some of the other wives in the bible such as Abraham and Sarah.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Ephesians 5:22-23

 I hope that I have somehow helped you serve your husband. I would love to hear some of y’alls stories. Have a blessed day!

Love Ya,


Sleep! What’s Sleep?

Sleep after baby. This is a pretty touchy subject. Maybe it’s because we are all sleep deprived and hangry since we have a tiny human attached to us at all times of the day. It’s pretty amazing right? I’m not knocking it at all, I love it and honestly wouldn’t have it any other way! I will be honest though, about 2 months ago I was done with the whole waking every 2 hours to nurse. So I decided to do some sleep training.

Let me give you some back story. My beautiful baby is now almost 16 months, We still currently co-sleep,  and we are still breastfeeding.

After school ended in May I told myself I was going to cut back the nursing at night so my plan was to feed to sleep, feed at midnight and then feed at like 5. There was a problem here, I went from nursing on demand to a timed schedule. I knew what time it was but my precious baby did not. All she knew was I would nurse her one time she woke up but I wouldn’t the next time.

Ok so onto step B) Cut out nursing at night cold turkey. Uhh looking back I want to say “what were you thinking?” Let me put it this way, neither of us slept for days. 

(I have never let my baby cry solo. I am always laying with her. If my husband had to work the next day we would simply stay in another room so he could still function the next day) 

Ok so that didn’t work. On to plan C) I have to take a step back and think. Why does she need me in the middle of the night? She’s not hungry 2 hours after eating, why can she not settle? I’ll tell you why, because she was used to having something to suck on and I was taking that away. This is what we have to work on! Getting to sleep without nursing! This was harder on me than it was my daughter. I was more attached to nursing her to sleep than I thought. The first night was a little rough but after she fell asleep she stayed asleep for 4 hours! This may not sound like a lot to you but to me it was amazing! Of course when she woke up she wanted to nurse, but I had to stick to my guns so I just patted her back and loved on her and within a few minutes she was back asleep. At 6 in the morning I though to myself that “it’s morning she can nurse, if she wakes up ok if not that’s fine too.” I usually wake up about that time too so I would nurse her and she will normally doze back off and I will get up and start my day. We have also started to do this at nap times and she doesn’t throw any kind of fit (most days lol).

Not only will it help when she goes to school but it helps her sleep at night. She now sleeps from 9pm to 2am without waking up and then when she wakes up at about 2am she can put herself back to sleep without any crying or nursing!

**I am not an expert by any means but I am going to say this would probably work with any kind of sleep crutch. Whether it’s nursing to sleep, sippy cup to sleep, rocking to sleep, with a paci or anything else. They fall asleep with it at first they are going to wake up wondering where it is at 2 am!

Here is a sample of how our night goes.

6:30pm eat dinner

7:15 Take a Bath

7:45 get Pjs on, brush teeth give hugs and kisses

8:00 read book and nighttime nurse.

8:30 lay down in bed together to go to sleep (no lights and sound machine on) 

She usually falls asleep within 15-20 minutes. After that mommy is free to watch tv, clean, or do anything she wants!

To me this is a mommy win! Have you tried some kind of sleep training that may have worked or may not have worked that you would like to share?

I would like to add that I would not change how we nursed at night the past year! Bear wouldn’t take milk from a bottle from 6 months on so she would nurse a lot at night time (since I worked during the day). This is when she obtained a lot of the calories and nutrition that she needed and I was completely fine with this!

Hope y’all have a great weekend! 

Love ya,


My top 5 ways to save a few $$$

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I would love to stay home and maybe even think about homeschooling bear, but that is not an option right now. However I have had the privilege of cutting back my hours and working part-time, this way I am able to spend more time with my family! We have had to cut back on a few things in order to achieve this but it was well worth it!
I really want to share with you ways that we were able to save some money so we could spend more time as a family. I know there is some of y’all struggling with the desire to spend less time away from your family but you don’t think you can do it financially, my hope is to give you hope that maybe you can!

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5. This is going to sound like an obvious answer but it really hit home for me. You NEED a budget! This really started when I went through financial peace university taught by Dave Ramsey. He really taught me how to do a budget and why. It’s really telling your money where to go and using it so it doesn’t run your life. I want to stay home but I also want to have fun, with a budget I get to decide where my money goes! When you sit down and do your first budget,you will see how wasteful you have been with your money and it might be pretty shocking! This is the time to change!

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4. It’s time to cut the cable cords! We live in a world that is technology obsessed!! There are so many other options out there to help you live a little cheaper. Who really has time to sit down and watch live TV anyways. We all record and then watch our shows at a random time. With all these options you can still watch some awesome shows while saving a few $$, I mean who doesn’t like to binge watch Netflix at 2 am while eating those Oreos that you hid from the kids all day! We currently don’t have cable, Netflix or Hulu. I ordered the firestick from Amazon for $40 and hooked it up so that we could watch what ever we wanted. We already had amazon prime so we get access to all those shows (amazon is coming out with their own exclusive shows just like Hulu and Netflix) If you still need to watch news or the bachelorette just grab yourself an antenna and you get all your local shows completely FREE! We don’t have an antenna currently, we kind of live in our own blissful world since we don’t know all the negative that the news stations like to broadcast. When we move I do plan to get an antenna but till then we are just fine without it.

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3. Meal plan! This goes hand in hand with budgeting, you have a set amount of money for groceries and when that money runs out you have to become creative with the food you have laying around. I am AWFUL at this, I used to be the girl who went to Wal-Mart every other day to buy food for dinner that night, then I’m hungry and buying who knows what, or they get me with all that delicious candy and chips in the check out isle! So to help me, I downloaded this app called EMeals. These people plan my meals for the whole week AND make my grocery list, all I have to do is open the app while shopping and check off something when I grab it! Then when I get home I pick the meal and BAM all my ingredients are there and I don’t have any stress. I pay $50 a year but it saves me that plus some each time I go grocery shopping, so I make that up within the first 2 weeks after that its all savings!

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2. Make it! When you need something or run out of something ask yourself “Can I make this?”. So you say you’re not crafty or don’t know how, let me introduce you to your new BFF YouTube! If by some chance you can’t find a tutorial on YouTube, which is not very likely, there is also an app called Pinterest! That’s really my go to. You will find that you can make something so much cheaper and if it’s something for you body you can make it healthier for yourself than buying it. If you have to buy something and it’s not on the budget find a way to make the money to buy it, watch someones kids for a couple of hours, make something that you just learned to make and sell it. There is a lot of ways to make money!

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1. Be content. This one steps on my toes every time I think about it. The bible says

“5. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you”  Hebrews 13:5

How many times do we think we “need” a new car because ours is making a funny noise or we “need” new shoes because ours has a hole. Why not get someone of learn how to check your own car before buying a new one. Why not look in your closet at the other 10 pairs of shoes you have. You don’t like the other 10 shoes you have? Sell them and now you can buy yourself another pair of shoes. Of course there will come a time that you car will die and nothing can stop that but hopefully you have been able to set back some money to buy a “new” one. *By new one I defiantly not saying to go out and buy the newest car you can find.Choose one that is in your price range and has a few miles. We want to avoid being in-car debt. You may never have the newest car or most expensive shoes but you will get to be home with your family and to me that worth more than all the Gold and Silver in the world!

**Just because I really LOVE y’all I am going to give you one more tip. DITCH THE DISPOSABLES! You have no idea how much you are paying for plastic cups, paper plates or even paper towels! If you cut out this unneeded expense you will not only save money but you will also help leave the world a nicer and cleaner place for your children. Take pride in what God has left us to take care of, if that means that we have to work just a little harder by washing a couple extra dishes then take that time.

If you have any questions or comments please feel free to contact me. I would love to help you make this change too.

Love you,