I have not nor will I try to hide my beliefs. I’m a Christian, a southern Baptist, with VERY traditional beliefs. Such as the man should be head of the house and the women should tend to the children and house. This is actually not how a lot of women think now-a-days. They feel that they are not being respected or they feel owed the opportunity to do the same thing that a man does. I don’t feel this same calling so I can not say why they feel this way or why they feel that women are less appreciated. God created us just as he did man but with a different purpose in mind, we are no less important, in fact I would love to think that if something was to happen to me then my house would fall apart. Ok that sounds bad, but I hope that I am doing such a fantastic job at making everything run smoothly and I would love to think that no one could run MY house like me.
I’m sure that you are asking yourself what does this have to do with a Social Media Hiatus? Well it by itself doesn’t but if you take in my beliefs and social media they can tend to clash.
I am NOT perfect, I catch myself sitting on the couch during nap time or any “down*” time during the day scrolling on Facebook. Why?? The answer is super simple, Because I can. You can see that I put and emphasis on “down time”. I will be honest this is probably not a down time, there is always something I can do but I choose not to and choose to sit down because I feel “entitled” to some rest time. This here goes against everything I said in that first paragraph. I want to be the only person that can run my house and I also want to take pride in it, if I neglect my responsibilities then I’m not taking very good care of my house.
I am human, a very weak one at that, and my self-control is AWFUL! So I put myself on a social media “time-out”, but as I stated before I have no self-control. Facebook is my social media weakness, so what do I do about this pull that I have? I deleted my Facebook app, that didn’t work because I would just open up the safari app and type it in. I had to put a child lock on my phone so that I am unable to get on Facebook on my phone, GUESS WHAT? It’s working!! If I want to get on Facebook I will have to do so on my computer. This takes convenience out of the equation and once again I am able to care for my household like I should.
*I will not delete my Facebook all together because it’s how I keep up with family far away. I could mail letter and pictures but that actually takes a lot of time and patience, a couple of things that I don’t have. *
There is a problem here, I am still on social media. I have to be careful as to what I choose to look at. I have to guard my heart and my mind. As a wife I have to make sure that I am not comparing my husband to others or even my life to others. Do you know how hard this is? You constantly see other people posting pictures of them going on dates, I then start to think “I need a date, why doesn’t he take me out?”
GUYS, I cannot say this enough my husband is amazing. He works hard, and then when he is not at work he is working even harder on trying to make our dream home a reality. He often jokes that he goes to work for a break. The sad part is he’s probably not kidding.
So how can you can you guard your heart without cutting social media out completely? I’m going to let you down on a little secret, listen, or in our case read carefully. Facebook has created this amazing feature and it really helps us in situations like this, It’s called UNFOLLOW. *gasp* Ok, with all joking aside this is an amazing feature. You are able to be friends with people without seeing all of their posts. So who do you need to unfollow? Anyone that makes you SIN. I’m giving myself away here. I have unfollowed a lot of people. Not because of them but because of me, and if I was causing someone to sin I would expect them to unfollow me. If seeing pictures if my kid, house, family or even my dogs makes you have ill will or bad thoughts, either toward yourself or anyone else, please don’t keep me around for me. I care about your eternal life A LOT, and I hope that others would feel the same about me!
Romans 13:9 For the commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet.” These–and other such commandments–are summed up in this one commandment: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Like I said, I have been unfollowing people and pages when the time arises but recently I went on a big “unfollowing” spree. Would you like to know who my latest victims are? Men. Yep, you read that right.I went through and unfollowed all the Men that I am not related to. (Even my preacher!) There could come a time that I unfollow them too but that situation has not presented itself. So you’re wondering why would I unfollow all the men on my social media, I did so because of SIN, and I felt like I was dishonoring my husband. God did not create me to be in every intimate part of another mans life other than my husband. It was not Gods intention for us to be inside of others lives like we are. I do not need to know what these men are up to all day, everyday.
I am also a big believer in talking wife to wife first or even making them my only contact. Most times there is no reason for me to talk privately to another man, but if the situation is to arise my husband is the first to know and if the man is married his wife is the second. Do not get me wrong if the wife’s post cause me to sin, I will unfollow her too.
Exodus 20:17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s.
*I was not friends with many men before hand, last year I went on a deleting spree and went from 300 people to about 100*
Please do not think of this as a punishment. I am not punishing these people for posting pictures of their life. I love to look at people’s pictures and read about their outings. I honestly have to protect myself and my family against sin. I am just guarding my heart from satin, he is the one that plants the seeds of doubt and comparison in my mind. I have to remove that temptation. If someone wants me to know whats going on in their life, the will come and talk to me.
James 4:2-4 You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure. You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of God.
I also want you to know that I am going to start practicing this in my own “real” life. If I am apart of something that is making me sin then I will gladly remove myself from it. I have spent the past few months working extremely hard on being content in my life and my husband and child defiantly deserve the best of me, not the me that is wishing for another life. That is not fair to myself nor is it fair to them.
Thank you for reading!